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		<title>More Havingness</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Feb 2012 19:36:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Forgiveness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Almost everyone I know has been experiencing great change during this early part of 2012: a big shift in career, relocation, a major relationship ending and/or a new one beginning, death, health challenges, or all of the above! No doubt, big changes are happening. And, for many those changes are taking the form of major [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Almost everyone I know has been experiencing great change during this early part of 2012:  a big shift in career, relocation, a major relationship ending and/or a new one beginning, death, health challenges, or all of the above!  No doubt, big changes are happening.  And, for many those changes are taking the form of major breakthroughs in life-long challenges, or visions and ventures that have been seen and worked on for years, and finally fruition is happening.  What an exciting time of opportunity and growth!</p>
<p>One of the themes I&#8217;ve noticed throughout all this growth and change we&#8217;re witnessing in and around us is <em>Havingness</em>.  We are, without a doubt, stepping into a new world, a new community of humanity, a new consciousness.  And the underlying pattern of this newness is our greater havingness, both personally and collectively.  Havingness is like receptivity, our ability and willingness to accept, to <em>have</em>, what <em>is</em>.  Havingness places no limits upon ourselves.  It recognizes and validates miracles, and it gives space for the entire spectrum of human experience.</p>
<p>While collectively we still have a long way to go in expanding our havingness, we are taking great steps.  We are having more awareness and permission to speak up about what we see and know.  Revolutions, protests, petitions and demonstrations worldwide attest to this.  We are having more willingness to question old ways of doing and being while creating new systems and modes of relating economically, politically and socially.  Grassroots community organizations promoting sustainability, alternative currency, sharing, fairness in housing, organic agriculture, new education models and creative expression all attest to this greater havingness for our new world.</p>
<p>We <em>know</em> we&#8217;re the ones we&#8217;ve been waiting for, and we are <em>being</em> the change we&#8217;d like to see, and <em>are</em> seeing, in the world.</p>
<p>Our next step is to continue to have more.  We will have more change when we can accept that ugliness, greediness and fear has appeared to control the world for too long, and continues to seem dominant and unyielding.  When we can give the fear, greed and ugliness within us space to Be, rather than fight it, hide it, fear it, deny or ignore it, we can be free from it.  Without our resistance to fear, fear has no power.  It is a wind that dies and and disappears without us blowing back at it.  When we can fully have fear, fear won&#8217;t have us in it&#8217;s grip.</p>
<p>The grip of fear is loosening everywhere, within us and all around us.  It&#8217;s a joy for me to witness.  Yet as fear comes out of the woodwork, we can sometimes lose ourselves in the confusion of its whirlwind release.  We can forget who we are, become afraid of the fear, and experience the agonizing resistance to fear.  But what if we could just <em>have</em> the fear?  What would that look or feel like?  </p>
<p>Havingness for fear means we are the <em>neutral</em> (meaning non-judging and non-resisting), aware, compassionate and amused observer of the energy we call fear, and all of the emotions, sensations and effects of it in the body-mind.  This takes practice, and willingness to fail and try again, over and over.  Havingness is a huge step towards mastery.  Becoming more and more aware, neutral, compassionate and amused of what we experience in our body-mind is the path to mastery.  It may not always be easy, but it can be fun if we choose!</p>
<p>So what does havingness for fear have to do with having more fun?  How can we possibly have fun with fear?  We can start, in the moment, and choose every moment, not to be afraid of or judge fear.  This gives us space and awareness.  We are not so stuck in the tunnel of fear and judgement that we can&#8217;t see what it is, how we got in it and how to get out.  Then we can accept ourselves within the experience of fear:  &#8220;I can have that I am in fear, and love myself in this space.&#8221; Then we can get curious and neutral to the fear.  &#8220;Wow, that&#8217;s an amazing amount of fear!  Look at how thick, dark, ugly, terrifying, convincing and annoying that fear is!&#8221;  We can even become a little amused <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />   &#8220;Holy shit!  That fear really threw me for a loop!  It really has me shakin&#8217; and tremblin&#8217;!  I&#8217;m peeing my pants!&#8221;  If we can accept ourselves running in fear circles, or becoming a monster every once in a while because of fear, then we can start to have a little fun with it.  We can stop, breathe, have some space from it, not take it so seriously, take our power back, and enjoy the ride back to peace, clarity, joy, love and wholeness.</p>
<p>More havingness for the darker side of life is also more havingness for the bright side of life.  We can&#8217;t have peace, joy, prosperity and love if we are resisting fear, greed, anger, sadness and hatred. When we resist something we make it real in our experience.  When we can <em>have</em> something, we recognize and experience the Truth.</p>
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		<title>Dying</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:36:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There seems to be a lot of dying happening lately. A friend of mine died in December, another friend&#8217;s mom died last week. Several people I know appear to be on the verge of death. It sounds depressing, but I&#8217;m not mourning, I&#8217;m celebrating. What&#8217;s really happening is a whole lot more Life in our [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There seems to be a lot of dying happening lately.  A friend of mine died in December, another friend&#8217;s mom died last week.  Several people I know appear to be on the verge of death.  It sounds depressing, but I&#8217;m not mourning, I&#8217;m celebrating.</p>
<p>What&#8217;s really happening is a whole lot more Life in our lives.  A friend I spoke with today shared about her visions and creative projects, how they were unfolding and manifesting and how, along the way, she&#8217;s experienced a lot of fear shedding.  We laughed about how we die every day by shedding our old fearful limited self for the bigger, brighter, unlimited Self.  Each day we choose Life&#8211;that which is Unlimited, All-Giving and Eternal&#8211;we let what appears to limit the un-limitable die order to experience more of who we really are. It was never really alive to begin with, but we fed it with our minds and made it seem so.  Aren&#8217;t we funny?  As we let the old energy die out, we make space for what is birthing from within us: our creativity, our Joy, our dreams and visions, our purpose, our Awareness.  Our Life.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve experienced this increase in dying within myself lately as well.  While people I know may be dying here and there, I know that who they are never dies, and that each day we must be prepared to die in order to truly live.  My teacher and friend, Michael Tamura, who also died recently and lived to tell about it, taught that if we could live each day knowing that &#8220;It&#8217;s a good day to die,&#8221; we could truly <em>have</em> life.  We can&#8217;t have life without death. We can&#8217;t have anything if we are resisting its opposite, for we become what we resist. It reminds me of an Osho quote I saw recently: &#8220;The real question isn&#8217;t whether life exists after death.  The real question is whether you are alive before death.&#8221;  If we are constantly resisting or trying to avoid death, we can never truly live.  </p>
<p>How often in a day do we resist death?  I don&#8217;t just mean death of the body or thoughts of our physical passing.  More than that, how often do we resist letting go of any thoughts, emotions, fears, pain, &#8220;good&#8221; experiences or &#8220;bad&#8221; experiences.  How much of our energy do we invest in trying to keep things the same?  How much of our life force goes into resisting change? While we may be wanting or trying to change some things about our life or circumstances, we are usually also trying to avoid other inevitable changes.  What if we let go of all that effort to make this change and make that stay the same, and instead celebrated the Life that Is, eternally, amidst the passing of life and death, birth and dying?</p>
<p>Jesus said, &#8220;Be passersby&#8221;.  Like the Buddhist teaching of non-attachment, Jesus taught us to move through life with neutrality.  To move through this world knowing that &#8220;this too shall pass&#8221; is to have certainty in Divinity, in That which Is without beginning or end: Life.  When we live as passersby, we know that Life exists eternally no matter what appears to be happening in this world, to our bodies or our thoughts.  When we live as passersby we are not attached to things being a certain way in order for us to feel safe, be happy or have peace and freedom.  As passersby, we let all thoughts of fear, guilt, limitation, anger, judgement, blame or shame die the moment they appear to be born.  We continue on our steady, certain path of Truth in celebration of Life. </p>
<p>As we celebrate Life more and more, all that has limited our experience of its Joy, Peace and Freedom falls away.  This can be experienced as dying in many ways.  We may physically feel like we&#8217;re dying, experience pain emotionally, or notice more fear in our minds.  This is all cause for celebration.  The old is dying to make wake for the new, both personally and globally.  Humanity&#8217;s old models and systems are dying.  Hurray! We are opening the space for more Life to be expressed and experienced in our world.  Say Yes! to dying and make way for peace, joy and plenty!</p>
<p>Life has no limits.  As more and more limits meet their death, stand by and watch the death march while Life parades in a new era for humanity.  Rise up singing and dancing in celebration of Life!</p>
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		<title>Wherever you go, there You Are</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:37:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Forgiveness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[My husband and I have been planning a spring vacation since the fall. Ever since our last trip to Hawaii this past summer, we can&#8217;t wait to return to the sparkling ocean, warm sand and flowery breezes. We love Hawaii. I often hear vacations referred to as &#8220;getaways,&#8221; but I wouldn&#8217;t call our family vacations [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My husband and I have been planning a spring vacation since the fall.  Ever since our last trip to Hawaii this past summer, we can&#8217;t wait to return to the sparkling ocean, warm sand and flowery breezes.  We love Hawaii. </p>
<p>I often hear vacations referred to as &#8220;getaways,&#8221; but I wouldn&#8217;t call our family vacations that.  What exactly would we be getting away from?  Sure, we&#8217;re away from our home town, our own house, and the routines, work, and familiar people and places that come with being home.  But we still have ourselves, our relationships with each other, our minds and their continuous babble, our dreams and fears, what we crave and what we resist.  </p>
<p>Rather than a getaway, I see vacation as life under a magnifying glass.  Whatever issues we are somehow able to skirt, ignore or not notice in the busyness of life at home, become very obvious.  No more hiding.  At home we may not see each other for more than a few minutes here and there while sharing a meal.  On vacation, we&#8217;re together, in a small condo, almost the entire day and night, for 10 days.  It&#8217;s like a hothouse.  We&#8217;re being pressure cooked and all our buttons are exposed and raw.  </p>
<p>It&#8217;s hilarious.</p>
<p>The discomfort usually starts during the packing process.  We&#8217;re all a bit frazzled, hurrying around, chasing the perfect exodus.  And we&#8217;re all in each others way.  We&#8217;re eager to get out of here, to be in Hawaii (or wherever our &#8220;getaway&#8221; will be).  </p>
<p>And then, after much shuffling and sighing, laughing and complaining, we arrive at our destination. We have gotten away, and feel a sense of relief, a lot of gratitude, and a bit of anxiousness about doing everything we&#8217;d like to do while we&#8217;re &#8220;getting away.&#8221;</p>
<p>Truly, it&#8217;s hilarious.</p>
<p>Vacation isn&#8217;t a vacation from life, or from yourself.  It&#8217;s you and your life in a different, perhaps more interesting, warm and relaxing place.  I&#8217;m certainly not complaining:  I love our family vacations, and Hawaii is one of my favorite places on the planet.  I&#8217;m grateful for our focused time together and the opportunities we have to forgive, laugh and play together.  Traveling allows us to experience ourselves differently.  It can certainly open up our creativity and inspire us in new ways.  But we are still who we are.  And our &#8220;stuff&#8221; comes with us.</p>
<p>Wherever we go, there we are! As long as we&#8217;re not expecting to get away from ourselves, vacation is awesome!</p>
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		<title>No Strings Attached: on happingess and being right</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:24:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Forgiveness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s getting to be that time again, when politics and elections are the buzz of many a conversation. I usually steer away from too much political talk, because I know I have a tendency to want, or need, to be right. And that&#8217;s prime territory for an ego trip. And yet, I enjoy sharing my [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s getting to be that time again, when politics and elections are the buzz of many a conversation.  I usually steer away from too much political talk, because I know I have a tendency to want, or need, to be right.  And that&#8217;s prime territory for an ego trip.</p>
<p>And yet, I enjoy sharing my perspective, my experiences and information.  (One of the reasons I blog! <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  So, I <em>have</em> been enjoying political discussions lately, because I remind myself when sharing what I see, think, feel or know, that I am not responsible for how my sharing is received.  In order to truly share, we must be able to give &#8220;with no strings attached.&#8221; We cannot give anything&#8211;whether it is our opinion, advice, a hug, a monetary gift&#8211;and need for it to be received a certain way in order for us to be happy. If I share an insight and someone ridicules or disagrees with me, I can still be happy if there are &#8220;no strings attached.&#8221;  However, if I have an agenda with my giving or sharing that includes being agreed with, then I am doomed to be unhappy, because I cannot control what others think, see, or believe.  Having strings attached when giving means trying to control the outcome, or trying to control the other person, because I have given my power to be happy over to my need to be right. (You may need to read that sentence again <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>As I was sharing my perspective about a presidential candidate today, I noticed again that when someone disagrees with me, the internal reaction is that (ego) impulse of needing to be right, and therefore wanting to persuade the other that they are wrong because of this and that, and I am right because of this and that.  Underneath and around that impulse to be right are layers of judgement, fear and control. The fear is that I will be wrong, which leads to guilt and punishment according to the unconscious mind or ego. Then of course there are all the judgements that go along with proving that I am right and the other is wrong.  &#8220;What&#8217;s wrong with them? Don&#8217;t they get it? Why don&#8217;t they understand? They&#8217;re stupid idiots!&#8221; LOL And with fear comes its partner control.  For where fear has been given power, control steps in attempting to ease the pain fear inflicts.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a funny game we play with and on ourselves: a massive, hopefully hilarious, albeit painful ego-trip which always and inevitably leads to unhappiness.  Fortunately, that&#8217;s our barometer: our happiness.  If we notice we are not able to be happy, to be at peace, with whatever circumstances we are in, we can know, with certainty, we have taken an ego trip.  And we can return home to Wholeness with the decision to be happy rather that following the ego&#8217;s need to be right.  We can continue to share who we are, to give our insight or perspective, with no strings attached, no agenda, no need to be right.  When we share from our certainty that we <em>Are</em>, regardless of appearances of right and wrong (or any other dichotomies), then we truly share from Love.  We truly share peace, and offer ourselves back to Wholeness.</p>
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		<title>Prayer</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 13 Aug 2011 03:11:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Please don&#8217;t pray for me. Place your hands together in the center of God and shed every tear that kept you from that all-encompassing Love. Please don&#8217;t pray for me. Close your eyes and see the luminous infinite Light that is You, at one with the Love that is God. Please don&#8217;t pray for me. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Place your hands together in the center of God</p>
<p>and shed every tear that kept you</p>
<p>from that all-encompassing Love.</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Close your eyes and see</p>
<p>the luminous infinite Light that is You,</p>
<p>at one with the Love that is God.</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Gather all your wanting</p>
<p>your longing and your aching</p>
<p>and cast them like tiny disappearing stones</p>
<p>into the endless depths of God&#8217;s ocean</p>
<p>You are the water</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Raise your sail to the winds of Love and fly</p>
<p>swiftly Home to the Peace of God</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Dare the demons of fear and guilt to come get you</p>
<p>Laugh as they fade into the Truth of Love</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Dance with me and God</p>
<p>in the Heart of Joy, and surrender</p>
<p>every need to be separate</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>seek out the cracks in your view</p>
<p>and fill them with God&#8217;s eyes</p>
<p>see only Love</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>kneel before the Infinite</p>
<p>drink It&#8217;s wine and flood yourself</p>
<p>with the stillness of Heaven</p>
<p>and the innocence of You</p>
<p>Please don&#8217;t pray for me.</p>
<p>Pray with me</p>
<p>in the center</p>
<p>Smile, Dance, Laugh</p>
<p>Sing in the joy of this union</p>
<p>the bliss of this kiss of Truth</p>
<p>the sigh of this deep surrender</p>
<p>the Peace of the everlasting Love</p>
<p>that Is</p>
<p>~ Jean Roorda deFauw 3/9/11</p>
<p>Dear Friends,</p>
<p>I felt inspired to share this now.</p>
<p>With Love,</p>
<p>Jean</p>
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		<title>Resistance</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Jun 2011 03:10:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I finally called out the white elephant of resistance sitting in my space today, thanks to the help of some great psychic friends. Isn&#8217;t it funny how we can be the effect of something for so long, even when we are aware that we are giving our power away?! I&#8217;ve been aware of this on-going [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I finally called out the white elephant of <em>resistance</em> sitting in my space today, thanks to the help of some great psychic friends.  Isn&#8217;t it funny how we can be the <em>effect</em> of something for so long, even when we are <em>aware</em> that we are giving our power away?!</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been aware of this on-going resistance for months, even years, off and on.  Specifically, I&#8217;ve been resisting <em>doing</em> anything creative, or <em>acting</em> upon my creative urges, ideas and inspirations.   While I have consciously wanted to put ideas into form and translate my being into doing, I also experience an underlying energy of <em>not</em> wanting to do it.  If I were to give this resistance a voice, it would literally say &#8220;I don&#8217;t <em>want</em> to do it!&#8221; Just like a kid resisting what a parent tells them to do.</p>
<p>Today I looked right at this resistance, whereas previously I was mostly resisting the resistance. <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  Isn&#8217;t it funny how we do this?!  It&#8217;s so easy to <em>become</em> the energy we&#8217;re experiencing, especially when that energy is resistance!  So the white elephant (of resistance) came out of the closet, finally, because I said Hello.</p>
<p>I also found the right question to ask.  Often we do not see or recognize an answer to a problem because we are not asking the right question.  With the help of friends experiencing similar resistance levels, we were able to find the question(s) that unlocked the door(s) of resistance.  We asked ourselves these questions, beginning with one and moving on to the next as we discovered answers: &#8220;What energy is preventing me from translating my Being into doing?, What am I resisting?  Where did I first experience the energy I&#8217;m resisting?  What can I offer this resistance, and the energy it is resisting in order to transform or release the energy?&#8221;</p>
<p>What I found within me was both amazingly simple, seemingly obvious, yet ingeniously hidden.  Isn&#8217;t it funny how we (our ego) hide from ourselves?!  When I looked right at the resistance without resisting it, I discovered what I was resisting.  I found that I had been mostly unconsciously resisting academic energy and rules.  Ha!  Of course.  It makes so much sense once we give ourselves space to be neutral and say hello to the energy we&#8217;re experiencing.  I say my experiences as a young child and adolescent in school, having to conform to the rules and regulations of society and school.  These rules, and my resistance to them, were sitting right in my will/energy distribution/action space.</p>
<p>When I looked further, I noticed that the protocol/rules/academic energy was perceived by me as a young person/student as invalidation, because there was no space, or permission, for me to explore and express my creativity freely.  Because most of my Being, my creativity and essential nature, were either completely unrecognized or blatantly invalidated as a child, I associated rules and academic structures of &#8220;getting things done&#8221; with pain/invalidation.  There it was, the purple cow riding the white elephant!:  along with the resistance, I discovered loads of invalidation.</p>
<p>The process of healing or transforming this invalidation and resistance can be summed up in one word: forgiveness.  And, as always, it really came down to forgiving myself.  I saw a quote today by Carl Rogers that touches upon this.  &#8220;The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.&#8221;  Until I am able to accept&#8211;or forgive&#8211;myself no matter what, I cannot change something I see within myself.</p>
<p>Today I practiced accepting and forgiving the resistance I have/had toward society&#8217;s rules about how to do things, and the structure and discipline I experienced in my school years.  I also accepted/forgave the invalidation I experienced in relationship to that energy of rules and academia.  This practice was and is a huge step toward shifting the pattern of resistance I&#8217;ve had toward doing.  And, while I may find other energies as I continue to ask the questions I asked today, I know that my willingness to see and release those energies has increased dramatically because I have stepped out of a great deal of resistance.   For that, I am celebrating!</p>
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		<title>no time not to love</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Feb 2011 04:10:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Lately I&#8217;ve been experiencing a sense of greater and greater timelessness. It&#8217;s not every moment, just when I slow down enough inside to notice the truth. On the surface it seems that days and weeks, months and years are going by faster and faster. And during each day, I&#8217;m often bewildered by the speed of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lately I&#8217;ve been experiencing a sense of greater and greater timelessness.  It&#8217;s not every moment, just when I slow down enough inside to notice the truth.  On the surface it seems that days and weeks, months and years are going by faster and faster.  And during each day, I&#8217;m often bewildered by the speed of things and the un-graspable sense of urgency simmering below the surface of our busy lives.</p>
<p>It seems so many of us are living like hampsters, anxiously chasing our tails around in a glass box or on a squeaky treadmill.  We&#8217;re racing around to get to the next appointment, the next goal, the next feel-good moment.  I&#8217;m often caught up in this sticky game of chase-the-ghost-of-time.  But more and more, I&#8217;m reminded to slow down, slow everything down inside, and become aware of timelessness.</p>
<p>From this expanded, serene space I can re-enter the seeming race, the chaotic symphony of a world on fire.  From this space I can know, and I can be grounded.  And from this space I can choose to love, all the time, no matter what thoughts and experiences pile up in my view.</p>
<p>Today is Valentine&#8217;s Day, the day we remember and celebrate love in its many forms.  But the form of love that we are here to remember, and to choose in every moment, is the Love that is timeless, the Love that is Truth, the Love that is infinite, the Love that <em>Is</em>.  On this day, I am reminded to celebrate the many ways I can express and embody Love.</p>
<p>The more we choose Love and share it, the more we recognize our timeless/infinite nature.  Being in touch with our timeless/infinite Self shows us the reality of our freedom.  When we own and celebrate this freedom, choosing love in every moment becomes easy and natural. When we operate from our freedom, we see that there is no time not to love, because love is our freedom.  Choosing love all the time allows us to move at our own pace, to be at cause rather than the effect of the world spinning fast and furious.</p>
<p>This is my (long and happy) mantra today: breathe. slow down inside. notice your infinite Self shining and smiling in you always. celebrate this <strong>Love and freedom</strong>~ choose it, have it, own it, Be it, express it, and <em>share</em> it.</p>
<p>Happy Valentines Day!</p>
<p>Love Always,</p>
<p>Jean</p>
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		<title>When the tooth fairy came&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Nov 2010 04:10:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Seren had been withdrawn, quiet and cuddly for almost two weeks. I carried him with me throughout the day, allowing his sensitivity to be calmed and nurtured by my closeness. All the while, we thought he was growing a few new molars. Through high fevers, sleepless nights and difficult days, he seemed to recover a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Seren had been withdrawn, quiet and cuddly for almost two weeks.  I carried him with me throughout the day, allowing his sensitivity to be calmed and nurtured by my closeness.  All the while, we thought he was growing a few new molars.  Through high fevers, sleepless nights and difficult days, he seemed to recover a bit of his spark and playfulness.</p>
<p>I saw it just a few minutes after leaving the house for our trip to Mt Shasta.  He looked up at me, talking and laughing, and I couldn&#8217;t believe what I saw:  his front tooth, bent backward and mangled!  Ouch!  I felt nauseous.  I must not be seeing this right, I thought.  His tooth was fine all morning, and he&#8217;s been happy and playful.  I looked again.  Something&#8217;s wrong with Seren, I said.  Stop the car.  We all examined his mouth while he protested our probing.  He wasn&#8217;t disturbed by the tooth, it seemed, only by our concern.  Yet, it was clear: the tooth was broken in a bad way.</p>
<p>The mind races in this kind of situation.  What happened?  How did his tooth brake?  Who was with him when this happened?  Why didn&#8217;t we notice this sooner?  What are we going to do?  Is he going to be OK?  What do we do? This is aweful&#8230;.</p>
<p>My stomach was talking a lot too.  The tooth&#8217;s appearance not only challenged my physical comfort, it challenged my sense of confident motherhood.  How could I let this happen?</p>
<p>We drove immediately to the dentist.  Seren remained relatively calm, aware and curious about our state of massive disturbance.  We talked about possible outcomes, wavering between hope and fear, tears and deep breaths.  Unable to do much, the dentist sent us to an oral surgeon, where 6 nurses had to hold him down while we cried through the loudest, longest, most difficult 5 minutes of screaming I&#8217;ve ever experienced in this life.  Again, the mind races, the pictures fly:  my baby is being tortured, how could this happen, what have we done, he&#8217;s going to be traumatized, what if he doesn&#8217;t recover?</p>
<p>With a local anesthesia, they pulled the badly broken tooth.  And I held the clear bright space in my heart that knows all is well, nothing can truly harm him, and he is a free, capable, aware being that is actually laughing a bit at this ordeal.  It&#8217;s your time to own your awareness and power, I heard him say to me in spirit.  While his baby body was confused and clearly upset, his soul was serene, certain and smiling.  And so was I, on the inside.  But, outwardly, I was distraught, and the tears fell as I carried my baby, mouth drooling blood and crying desperately, out of the office of seeming terror.  Gratefully, Seren wasn&#8217;t the only soul reminding me of the important spiritual lesson unfolding, and the power and presence I was being called to own.</p>
<p>Rarely do we receive notice before a situation where all of our inner and outer resources are called into action.  This is especially true for parents.  Motherhood asks us to remain calm, certain, grounded and ready to respond at all moments.  Our children are our teachers, and their pop-quizzes are timed just right for our souls awakening.  &#8220;Are you paying attention?,&#8221; they ask.  I need your presence.  Right here, right now, every moment.  Don&#8217;t fall asleep, don&#8217;t drift off.  Be awake, alert.</p>
<p>The tooth fairy came early, unexpected.  And, like a truth fairy, it asked, &#8220;Can you <em>have</em> this?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Are you ready to have the power of your presence at any and all moments?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Can you have your peace and certainty in any circumstance?&#8221;</p>
<p>Boldly, I answered yes.  Although, I&#8217;m hoping the next test will be gentler on my baby&#8217;s body.</p>
<p>By the way, Seren is well.  He&#8217;s now my little snaggle-tooth man.</p>
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		<title>Focus and Freedom</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Sep 2010 03:09:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m always telling my older son to focus. I watch him while he&#8217;s doing his homework and I observe my own frustration in response to the way he works. &#8220;He&#8217;s all over the place,&#8221; I tell my husband. If he&#8217;s writing a paper, he&#8217;ll write a few words, look up and play with something on [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m always telling my older son to focus.  I watch him while he&#8217;s doing his homework and I observe my own frustration in response to the way he works.  &#8220;He&#8217;s all over the place,&#8221; I tell my husband.  If he&#8217;s writing a paper, he&#8217;ll write a few words, look up and play with something on the desk, reach over to the computer and surf You-Tube for a while, go back to the paper he&#8217;s writing for a few more words, reach for the phone and call someone, fold some origami, back to the paper he&#8217;s writing for a few seconds, then on to his iPod, then he&#8217;s up walking around&#8230; Exasperated, I tell him, again, &#8220;You&#8217;ve got to focus! How will you finish your work and make any sense of it if you&#8217;re &#8216;all over the place?!&#8221;</p>
<p>Aaah but he&#8217;s not the only one.  Like mother, like son.  I, too, can do things in a rather circular, multi-task, &#8216;all over the place&#8217; manner.   There&#8217;s nothing wrong with it, unless you really want to accomplish something <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />   And I wonder, is this the creative process unfolding, or a major avoidance tactic?  Am I resisting the task at hand, or giving my thoughts and creative ideas space to ruminate, organize and manifest in their own time and their own way.</p>
<p>I guess the barometer is in the results: is anything getting done?  Sure, we may not need to produce results quickly all of the time, so this round-about creative technique may be suitable and appropriate sometimes, but what about efficiency and production.  Where do these come in to the creative process?  And how can we balance productivity with our creative wandering?</p>
<p>Ok, maybe I&#8217;m deluding myself.  Creative wandering is a cute term but, really, it could accurately be called <em>avoidance</em>.   And, given that I became most aware of this pattern while observing my son&#8217;s exasperatingly long homework deliberation, he could call it &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be playing video games,&#8221; and I could call it &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be done with this!&#8221;</p>
<p>Remember those bumper stickers, &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be&#8230;(fill in the blank)&#8221;?</p>
<p>How often do we, as souls, have that attitude toward our human incarnation?  What is it we&#8217;d rather be doing?  Do we notice how often during the day we think, consciously or unconsciously, &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be&#8230;&#8221;?  How often does our mind wander away from the present, and what it is we are currently engaged in, and think &#8220;If only I could be doing something else, then I&#8217;d be happy or at peace.&#8221;  And, do we even notice if we have the &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be&#8221; attitude towards our entire incarnation?</p>
<p>As souls, we plan our lifetime before we incarnate.  We meet with a council of advisers, guides and spiritual friends who help us decide what experiences and relationships will help us learn, grow and serve the best way possible.  We set this up from a place of neutrality, outside the time and space of incarnation, and, often, by the time we&#8217;re in the midst of our incarnation, experiencing the relationships and tasks we planned as a soul, we forget our high ideals of growth, learning and service, and would rather just hightail it outta here!  It&#8217;s easy to think about doing something, but to actually do it can be a whole other matter, especially when confronted with the slower manifestation process in physical form, not to mention the karma we must confront and complete!  As souls, we may think &#8220;It&#8217;s taking too long, This person will never change, No one&#8217;s listening, This place is Crazy!&#8221;  And yet, we have a purpose to fulfill.  Our incarnation is not random, and if we can focus and stay on task, there is much growth and fulfillment to be had.</p>
<p>Take a look at your greater purpose.  What did you come here to fulfill or accomplish?  What lessons are you learning, or avoiding?  How much growth are you willing to have?  Can you allow yourself to have more?</p>
<p>Because you are here, at this time, you chose as a soul to incarnate during the most growth inducing time in the history of mankind.  There is more potential and support and inspiration and movement for spiritual growth, awakening and service than ever before.  You chose to be here, to be part of the amazing transformation that the world is going through, so that you, as a soul, could also have that transformation.  Are you staying focused?  Is part of you saying &#8220;I&#8217;d rather be&#8230;&#8221; or are you fully here, committed to your purpose and the task of your soul&#8217;s incarnation?</p>
<p>Distractions can take many forms.  It&#8217;s up to you to discern if any seeming wandering has a creative purpose, part of a gestational cycle, or if you&#8217;re spinning your wheels.   If you are in competition with yourself or others, you are likely to distract yourself because your purpose cannot be fulfilled in competition.   Be gentle on yourself, but don&#8217;t delude yourself.  We are all here for a purpose.  Outwardly, that purpose manifests differently and may appear big or small by the world&#8217;s standards.  Yet, inwardly, each soul&#8217;s purpose is equally great, equally important, and absolutely necessary for the soul&#8217;s evolution.</p>
<p>Your freedom lies in being here fully, and giving everyone space to be here as well, right where you are, right where they are.  There is nothing to escape, and nothing to out-do, beat or win.  Ascension happens not by &#8220;rising above&#8221; the world, but by fully coming into the world, fully inhabiting your body-mind, with no resistance or attachment, fully owning your incarnation and your power and creativity as a soul who&#8217;s &#8220;been around the block&#8221; enough times to know more than the world may want you to.  If there was nothing else you&#8217;d rather be doing, no where else to go but right here, how much freedom and focus would you have?</p>
<p>If you allowed yourself to be fully here in the chaos of the dream, your power and creativity would be unlimited, because you are unlimited.  When <em>you</em> fully arrive <em>here</em>, you will see the limitlessness of <em>you</em> and your purpose will be fulfilled.  And you will truly know your freedom.</p>
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		<title>Time and Eternity</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Aug 2010 03:09:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Since I&#8217;ve written last, the miracles have certainly been present in my life. And, yes, I have to be always present with life in order to recognize them in each moment. I&#8217;ve found this especially important for me when it comes to the all illusive game of time that we all play with. Time&#8230;keeps on [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Since I&#8217;ve written last, the miracles have certainly been present in my life.  And, yes, I have to be always present <em>with</em> life in order to recognize them in each moment.  I&#8217;ve found this especially important for me when it comes to the all illusive game of time that we all play with.</p>
<p>Time&#8230;keeps on slippin, slippin&#8217;..into the future (I&#8217;m hearing that fun and groovy tune as I write <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  )  With a 9 month old active baby boy to care for, time seems ever more to slip out of my grasp.   The days, weeks and months fly by, as he grows quickly into the next stage of development, just as I&#8217;ve gotten familiar with the last.  My time is consumed by the everyday needs of my children and family, as I search for moments here and there for mySelf, and for nurturing my inner sanctuary and my creative projects.  If I forget, which I often do!, to be ready and open for the miracle each moment, I get lost in a battle that&#8217;s already lost with time and myself.  I seem to never have enough time for all those things: the to-do list that grows and grows.  Inspired ideas become buried in the fog of daily busy-ness.  How can I possibly create space and time for everything, as time seems to speed up more and more?!</p>
<p>Aaaah.  Breathe.  There is infinite time, and infinite space.  That&#8217;s what the miracle reveals.  I don&#8217;t have to be prisoner to time.  I can be free!</p>
<p>Freeing ourselves from the illusory constraints in our lives, such as time, can be as easy as remembering that they are illusory.  But how do we do that?  Especially when they seem so real?  How do we have &#8220;all the time in the world&#8221; when there seems to never be enough time?  We can&#8217;t just ignore what appears to limit us, saying &#8220;oh well, it&#8217;s not real, so..whatever.&#8221;  We still have to make a living, pay the bills, have relationships, care for our body, follow the basic rules of having a body on planet earth.  Freedom does not come from ignoring perceived limits, or from fighting against them.</p>
<p>Instead, freedom comes from looking at limits, at anything, with the eyes of forgiveness.  Look right at limits, including time, with the <em>knowing</em> that appearances cannot alter your Being, which is free and eternal.  By accepting time and other perceived limits for what they are, by allowing them to be there, giving them space and permission to be the illusions they are, we simultaneously give <em>ourselves</em> space to Be.  Give yourself permission and space to be no matter what else <em>appears</em> to be.  Allow yourself to be with the appearances, not resisting the limits you are encountering, <em>accept yourself</em>.</p>
<p>Recognize time, and any other perceived limit, as part of the nature of the world you temporarily appear to be in, but are never and have never been <em>of</em>.  If you were of this world, you would indeed be bound, confined, trapped and forever stuck in an endless cycle of birth and death, growth and decay.  You would indeed need to work harder and harder to achieve something that would always be just out of your reach.  You would be defined by the limits of time and space.  But, fortunately, you&#8217;re not!!  Yay!</p>
<p>You are of <em>God</em>.  You are Christ, the Son (or Daughter, really you have no gender or twoness <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  of God.  You are Whole, Pure, Innocent, Limitless, Eternal.  You are the Essence of God: Joy, Peace, Love.  You are the breath of God.  You are the Beingness of God.  You are beyond these words that are merely symbols and limits in themselves.  You are infinitely powerful and creative.  You are.</p>
<p>So how do we remember our Divinity?  How do we remember our limitless, eternal, all-powerful and creative Self when the world slaps us in the face, when we feel as though we can&#8217;t accomplish something, or we&#8217;re failing, or we&#8217;ll never be able to (fill in the blank), or we don&#8217;t have (fill in the blank)?  Even if we don&#8217;t <em>feel</em> our freedom and limitlessness, we must be able to <em>know</em> it. And we <em>do</em> know it, because it&#8217;s <em>who we are</em>.  We can always know who we are if we choose, because we can never really hide from ourselves.  Just like you can&#8217;t tell a dog not to be a dog, and you can&#8217;t tell a tree to stop being a tree, and you can&#8217;t tell a mountain not to be a mountain;  You can try, but the dog will keep on being a dog, and the tree will keep on being a tree, and the mountain will keep on being a mountain, because <em>that&#8217;s what it is</em>.</p>
<p>And You are eternal, free and unlimited Spirit, so no matter how much the world and all of it&#8217;s appearances tries to tell you otherwise, you are and will always Be.  Isn&#8217;t that fantastic?!  I <em>love</em> that!  Can you feel my enthusiasm?! <img src='http://blogofwholeness.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />   Your <em>knowing</em> comes from who you are.  Your <em>feeling</em> comes from your interaction with the world, with what appears to be.  Therefore, <em>feeling</em> is easily affected.  It <em>is</em> the effect.  While <em>you</em> and your <em>knowing</em> are the cause.</p>
<p>Think of time as the effect: it&#8217;s part of this world of perception.  And then think of You, Eternity, as Cause.  How does Eternity effect time?  Well, time disappears in eternity.  Time does not exist in eternity.  Eternity just Is.  So how &#8220;in the world&#8221; do you, eternity, become the effect of time?  How do we somehow experience things backwards?</p>
<p>It&#8217;s laughable!  Really!  That we could think &#8220;Hmmm, what would it be like if I could <em>not</em> be, if I were <em>not</em> what I am?&#8221;  That absurd, laughable thought is why the universe in all of its backwardness appears to be.  Fortunately, the more we remember what really <em>Is</em>, the more we laugh at the absurdity of thinking that what <em>Is</em> could be <em>Isn&#8217;t</em>, the more our perceived limits, problems, and reversals of cause and effect disappear into the nothingnesss that they are. Phew!  What a relief!  LOL!</p>
<p>In the meantime, as the whole big illusory mess undoes itself, as it must, since it <em>isn&#8217;t</em>, LAUGH!  What a joke we&#8217;ve played on ourselves!!</p>
<p>Aren&#8217;t we hilarious?!</p>
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